A few days I was getting breakfast at a local coffee shop when I struck up a conversation with a person who I see every time I come into the shop. He immediately noticed that I was pregnant and of course I explained right from the get go what I was doing. It turns out that he and wife went through 10 years of trying to conceive (TTC). Although they never get pregnant they were fortunate enough to adopt their daughter, who is now 18. He said that Surrogacy wasn't as common as it is now and it's amazing the things they can do now.
After a few more minutes I realized that we had been talking for a 30 minutes and I needed to go. So I started to get up and he said one more thing to me that will forever be stuck in my head. With tears in his eyes he told me about the moment that he first held his daughter. He said that it was "an amazing feeling looking into her eyes for the first time, holding her tiny hands" He said all the years of struggling made it all worth it for this moment. "you are doing a wonderful thing". Of course if I see a grown man cry over his child , I cry. So there we were , the two of us crying in a coffee shop. But what he had said resonated with me. I told him "what you just told me....that's what I am doing this. I want to give someone that kind of gift. I look forward to seeing the faces of the parents when they hold their daughter for the first time" For me, that will make the past 2 years (how long this particular surrogacy process) worthwhile.
Saturday, March 26, 2011
Tuesday, March 22, 2011
Silvia, Ysabel's Sister Friend
I had a dream last night that I went into labor and my bag wasn't packed. And when I went to the L&D , they were mad at me since I didn't call to let them know that I was coming. Didn't enjoy that dream but it made me think that I probably should pack my bag soon. Also , my husband seems to be concerned (which is a rarity) about me going into labor. Are you ready? Should we do any practicing for labor? Do you remember how to breathe? It is so comforting to have him ask me those things. It makes me feel supported and taken care of.
Silvia seems to be very active. She was moving around so much last night.Lately she moves mainly at night while I watch TV. She also moves alot when I go into Ysabel's room. I think she likes to hear Ysabel's voice. Sometimes when Erik sneezes it makes Silvia jump. She gets scared easily, poor baby. But when she jumps , it makes me laugh. Erik sneezes really loud and sometimes it scares me too!
When I pick up Shaun and Ysabel at school , Ysabel's friends want to see my belly and talk to Silvia. They ask me where will she live? Who are her parents? Will they ever meet Silvia? A teacher told me yesterday that the girls were talking and they were asking what will Silvia be to Ysabel. Ysabel was unsure of what to call her but they all decided on "sister friend". I don't think I could have come up with something better. Beautiful.
Silvia seems to be very active. She was moving around so much last night.Lately she moves mainly at night while I watch TV. She also moves alot when I go into Ysabel's room. I think she likes to hear Ysabel's voice. Sometimes when Erik sneezes it makes Silvia jump. She gets scared easily, poor baby. But when she jumps , it makes me laugh. Erik sneezes really loud and sometimes it scares me too!
When I pick up Shaun and Ysabel at school , Ysabel's friends want to see my belly and talk to Silvia. They ask me where will she live? Who are her parents? Will they ever meet Silvia? A teacher told me yesterday that the girls were talking and they were asking what will Silvia be to Ysabel. Ysabel was unsure of what to call her but they all decided on "sister friend". I don't think I could have come up with something better. Beautiful.
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